Anita Moorjani's near-death experience unveils us to the magnificence that we are.
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Put aside everything you think you already know.
Open your mind and heart to receive something new.
Take your time going through each point.
Return to any points that particularly touch you.
In the coming days, listen carefully to the wisdom within you.
* All quotes are from Dying to Be Me by Anita Moorjani
1. A Magnificence Distorted by Fear
"The realm I experienced when my body shut down allowed me to see my own magnificence, undistorted by fear. I became aware of the greater power I had access to.
While I was in that state of clarity in the other realm, I instinctively understood that I was dying because of all my fears. I wasn't expressing my true self because my worries were preventing me from doing so. I understood that the cancer wasn't a punishment or anything like that. It was just my own energy, manifesting as cancer because my fears weren't allowing me to express myself as the magnificent force I was meant to be.
In that expansive state, I realized how harshly I'd treated myself and judged myself throughout my life.
There was nobody punishing me. I finally understood that it was me I hadn't forgiven, not other people. I was the one who was judging me, whom I'd forsaken, and whom I didn't love enough. It had nothing to do with anyone else.
I saw myself as a beautiful child of the universe. Just the fact that I existed made me deserving of unconditional love. I realized that I didn't need to do anything to deserve this - not pray, nor beg, nor anything else. I saw that I'd never loved myself, valued myself, or seen the beauty of my own soul.
Although the unconditional magnificence was always there for me, it felt as though physical life had somehow filtered it out or even eroded it away."
During her near-death experience, Anita discovered that we are all a magnificent force of energy, but that we hold ourselves back because of fear - fear of failure, of being disliked, fear of not being good enough, of letting people down, fear of illness, of living and dying, etc.
She also saw that she'd never loved herself, valued herself, or seen the beauty of her own soul. Consider the fear and self-judgment you have innocently lived with all these years.
Notice your response to the word "magnificence" as a description of your true nature. Are you skeptical and dismissive? Or are you open to receiving the words of someone who may have seen something you haven't?
2. The Magnificence of a Pure State of Awareness
"I want to clarify that my healing wasn't so much born from a shift in my state of mind or beliefs as it was from finally allowing my true spirit to shine through.
Many have asked me if something like positive thinking caused my recovery, and the answer is no. The state I was in during my NDE (near-death experience) was way beyond the mind, and I healed because my damaging thoughts were simply out of the way completely.
I was not in a state of thinking, but a state of being. It was pure consciousness - what I call magnificence! This state of Oneness transcends duality. I was able to get in touch with who I truly am, the part of me that's eternal, infinite, and encompasses the Whole.
I don't advocate that if we "believe" a certain way, we'll eliminate disease or create an ideal life. Instead, I'm more focused on self-awareness, which is different.
Becoming entrenched in beliefs that no longer serve us can keep us locked in a state of duality and put us in a constant state of judgment. What we endorse is considered "good" or "positive," and what we don't believe in is not.
This also puts us in the position of needing to defend our beliefs when others don't agree. And when we invest too much of our energy in defense, we become reluctant to let go, even when ideas no longer serve us. That's when our beliefs start to own us instead of the other way around.
Having awareness, on the other hand, just means realizing what exists and what's possible - without judgment. Awareness doesn't need defending. It expands with growth and can be all-encompassing, bringing us closer to the state of Oneness. This is where miracles take place. In contrast, beliefs only allow what we deem credible while keeping out everything else.
So no, it wasn't my beliefs that caused me to heal. My NDE was a state of pure awareness, which is a state of complete suspension of all previously held doctrine and dogma. This allowed my body to "reset" itself. In other words, an absence of belief was required for my healing.
Since my NDE, I've learned that strongly held ideologies actually work against me. Needing to operate out of concrete beliefs limits my experiences because it keeps me within the realm of only what I know - and my knowledge is limited. And if I restrict myself to only what I'm able to conceive, I'm holding back my potential and what I allow into my life.
However, if I can accept that my understanding is incomplete, and if I'm able to be comfortable with uncertainty, this opens me up to the realm of infinite possibilities."
Anita says: "I healed because my damaging thoughts were simply out of the way completely." Yesterday we looked at some of the fearful thoughts we tend to harbour unconsciously. Imagine how little stress there would be in your daily life without those fearful thoughts, and how much energy that would free up to allow your spirit to shine through.
Today's quote shows us how our beliefs can be a hindrance to the state of pure awareness, the state of healing. Consider the thoughts and beliefs you hold on to and defend. Do you own them or do they own you?
3. The Magnificence of Being Love
"It's all very well for me to talk about healing after I've experienced it, or for me to tell you to just trust and let go, letting the flow of life take over; but when you're going through a really low period, it's difficult to do - or even to know where to begin.
However, I think the answer is simpler than it seems, and it's one of the best-kept secrets of our time: the importance of self-love. You may frown or cringe at the thought, but I can't stress enough how important it is to cultivate a deep love affair with yourself.
In the tapestry of life, we're all connected. Each one of us is a gift to those around us, helping each other be who we are, weaving a perfect picture together. When I was in the NDE (near-death experience) state, it all became so clear to me because I understood that to be me is to be love. This is the lesson that saved my life.
Many of us still believe that we have to work at being loving, but that means living in duality, because there's a giver and receiver. Realizing that we are love transcends this. It means understanding that there's no separation between you and me, and if I'm aware that I am love, then I know that you are, too. If I care for myself, then I automatically feel the same for you!
In my NDE state, I realized that the entire universe is composed of unconditional love, and I'm an expression of this. Every atom, molecule, quark, and tetraquark, is made of love. I can be nothing else, because this is my essence and the nature of the entire universe.
Even things that seem negative are all part of the infinite, unconditional spectrum of love. In fact, Universal life-force energy is love, and I'm composed of Universal energy! Realizing this made me understand that I didn't have to try to become someone else in order to be worthy. I already am all that I could attempt to be.
Similarly, when we know we are love, we don't need to work at being loving toward others. Instead, we just have to be true to ourselves, and we become instruments of loving energy, which touches everyone we come into contact with.
When I am being love, I don't get drained, and I don't need people to behave a certain way in order to feel cared for or to share my magnificence with them. They're automatically getting my love as a result of me being my true self. And when I am nonjudgmental of myself, I feel that way toward others.
When we're each aware of our own magnificence, we don't feel the need to control others, and we won't allow ourselves to be controlled. When I awoke into my infinite self, I was amazed to understand that my life could be dramatically different just by realizing that I am love, and I always have been. I don't have to do anything to deserve it.
Understanding this means that I'm working with life-force energy, whereas performing at being loving is working against it.
Realizing that I am love was the most important lesson I learned, allowing me to release all fear, and that's the key that saved my life."
The words "self-love" can conjure up all kinds of images but Anita uses the words in the deepest sense, meaning to recognize ourselves as love. Yet, how are we to cultivate a deep love affair with ourselves if we have come to believe that we are unlovable, full of flaws, and less than we should be?
All these thoughts are masking the magnificence of who we truly are, breeding judgment and separation between all of humanity. Once we see this, we have a choice - to continue in this realm of judgment, fear and separation, or to embrace our true nature and come to understand that our concept of ourselves is coming from a conditioned and confused mind.
"When we're each aware of our own magnificence," of the love that we are, anything becomes possible.
4. The Magnificence of Allowing
"Because of what I realized in my NDE (near-death experience) I feel it's so important not to have judgment and fear toward myself.
When my inner dialogue is telling me that I'm safe, unconditionally loved, and accepted, I then radiate this energy outward and change my external world accordingly. My outer life is actually only a reflection of my inner state.
It's not important whether I'm having a bad day or a bad week. It's more important how I'm feeling about myself while I'm facing this day or week. It's about trusting the process even as I face a difficult time and not being afraid to feel anxiety, sadness, or fear, rather than suppressing everything until those emotions pass.
It's about allowing myself to be true to who I am. Because of this, the feelings will dissipate and occur less and less frequently.
Before my NDE, I used to suppress my upsetting emotions a lot, because I used to believe that they would attract negativity in my life. In addition, I didn't want to concern others, so I tried to control my thoughts and force myself to be positive. But I now understand that the key is to always honor who you truly are and allow yourself to be in your own truth.
Every segment of time is totally unique, and as each moment has passed, it can't be replicated in this physical plane. I've learned to be comfortable with that and to live in the moment. As much as possible, I try not to carry any emotional baggage from one instant to the next.
Instead, I try to see each moment as a clean slate, bringing with it new possibilities. So I do what uplifts me or brings me the most pleasure and joy at that time."
Every single moment is an opportunity to meet life where it is, allowing our journey to unfold naturally, without resistance and reluctance. This means not being afraid of our emotions and allowing anxiety, sadness, and every feeling that we have, to exist. "Because of this, the feelings will dissipate and occur less and less frequently."
Practice allowing and relaxing through all the experiences you encounter today. I personally like to use my breath to help me do that because it's always with me. When sadness or anxiety visit me, I take a deep, conscious breath and enter into the state of allowing. As my breath becomes my anchor, I continue to take a few more conscious breaths and experience my emotions while in the seat of awareness.
Instead of pushing our feelings away with fear and judgment, we can meet them with unconditional love - this is where healing takes place.
5. The Magnificence of Trusting
"We always attract the perfect results, and like calls to like. So the kinder I am to myself, the more outward events will reflect that. The harder and more judgmental I am toward myself, the more my situation will match it. The universe always proves me right in my opinion of myself.
Previously, I used to pursue, feeling as though I had to do, get, and achieve. However, the very act of going after something stems from fear - we're afraid of not having what we truly want. It keeps us stuck in duality, because the focus is on the inherent separation between the hunger and the quarry. Now, however, I no longer chase anything. Instead, I allow.
For example, when I feel an incredible desire for where I want my life to go, I know that if I were to pursue it aggressively, this would only cause me to fight against universal energy. The more effort I have to put into trying to attain it, the more I know that I am doing something wrong.
Allowing, on the other hand, doesn't require effort. It feels more like a release because it means realizing that since everything is One, that which I intend to get is already mine.
The process of allowing happens by first trusting, and then by always being true to who I am. In this way, I will only attract that which is truly mine, and it all happens at the rate I'm comfortable with.
I can keep focusing on what worries me or what I think I need or find lacking, and my life won't move toward what I'd like to experience. It will just stay the way it is now, because I'm paying attention to my fears and what upsets me or leaves me feeling unfulfilled, instead of expanding my awareness by trusting and allowing new experiences.
So I can let the picture materialize slower or faster, depending on how quickly I want to let go of my worries and relax into the process. The more attached I am to certain ways of thinking or outcomes or the more fearful I am of new adventures, the slower the development will be, because I'm not open to the process. I'm not allowing universal energy to flow through me naturally.
Having said all that, I don't actually sit and ponder every choice or possibility. All I really do within each moment is to consciously live in that space, which is done internally, not externally. Outside, there is nothing to pursue and nothing to attract. And since the universe is within, whatever I experience inside myself affects the Whole.
Since the tapestry of all time has already been woven, everything I could ever want to happen in my life already exists in that infinite, nonphysical plane. My only task is to expand my earthly self enough to let it into this realm. So, if there's something I desire, the idea isn't to go out and get it, but to expand my own consciousness to allow universal energy to bring it into my reality here.
Pursuing what I desire only reinforces separation, whereas allowing means realizing that since we're all One and everything is connected, that which I desire is already mine."
Many of us have heard messages about how we need to exert a lot of effort to manifest what we want - from writing down our desires and copying them out multiple times, to doing daily affirmations and visualizations. But here, Anita presents us with a more enlightened view of how it all works.
Either we are reinforcing separation, or we are realizing the Oneness and connection that exists in universal energy, and aligning with that by allowing and trusting.
"The process of allowing happens by first trusting." Can you trust that you don't need to chase anything anymore? Or that you don't need to fight and struggle with life to get what you want?
Instead of focusing on how you feel unfulfilled, are you willing to expand your own consciousness to allow universal energy to flow through you naturally and meet each moment with new possibilities and adventures?
6. The Joy of Realizing Your Magnificence
"The only universal solution I have is to love yourself unconditionally and be yourself fearlessly! This is the most important lesson I learned from my NDE (near-death experience), and I honestly feel that if I'd always known this, I never would have gotten cancer in the first place.
When we're true to ourselves, we become instruments of truth for the planet. Because we're all connected, we touch the lives of everyone around us, who then affect others. Our only obligation is to be the love we are and allow our answers to come from within in the way that's most appropriate for us.
Finally, I can't stress enough how important it is to enjoy yourself and not take yourself or life too seriously. If I ever had to create a set of tenets for a spiritual path to healing, number one on my list would be to make sure to laugh as often as possible throughout every single day - and preferably laugh at myself.
Day-to-day problems never seem as big when viewed through a veil of humor and love.
In this age of information technology, we're bombarded with news seemingly at the speed of light. We're living in an age of high stress and fear, and in the midst of trying to protect ourselves from everything we think is "out there," we've forgotten to enjoy ourselves and to take care of what's inside.
Our life is our prayer. It's our gift to this universe, and the memories we leave behind when we someday exit this world will be our legacy to our loved ones. We owe it to ourselves and to everyone around us to be happy and to spread that joy around.
If we can go through life armed with humor and the realization that we are love, we'll already be ahead of the game.
I wish you joy as you realize your magnificence and express yourself fearlessly in the world."
These are words of wisdom from someone who has had a profound experience, and whose sharing of that experience has blessed many lives. And yet, she points out, we do tend to take life too seriously.
Perhaps the very act of laughing has a healing power we aren't aware of. There's definitely something to be said for having a lightness of being and not being weighed down by earthly troubles.
Realizing our magnificence and expressing ourselves fearlessly in the world may sound like ambiguously difficult things to do - but that's where we don't have to take our thoughts so seriously.
Perhaps it's as simple as breathing, smiling, and staying open to all of life.